The book pictured above is an essential read! Who would’ve guessed a boredom killing stroll into water stones would bring me to a place of deep self evaluation. I suddenly began to ask so many questions and perhaps you can ask yourself these questions to ……
What if you dug deep down inside, then realised that you don’t actually want to be a mother or a wife but because it has been fed to you all your life, you have just become complacent and have accepted the idea. What if you began to really pursue your dream and you find that your “want” for a family begins to dwindle?
My quandary is must we all eventually sum our lives up to becoming a professional juggler; balancing family and work? Are those our only options?
There must be a broader horizon for women, right? We have definitely been blessed with the skill of multitasking, there must be so many more tasks and combinations that we can juggle instead.
What about juggling a new launch within your company and building your first home?
What about juggling how to save up for a new car whilst saving up for worldly travels?
What is so wrong about a woman solely but happily pursuing her dreams, with no kids, no husband? Or the scariest question of them all, what if you never marry? What does your future look like?
Eventually all of those questions led me to think of Mother Theresa, a woman who did not birth her own children and never married. However, she was a mother to many; her spirit, her persona and her purpose was higher than carrying a child. Her purpose was higher than a wedding day, a white dress and strolling down an aisle. She had a purpose outside of just being a woman, she was a human being.
In conclusion, I’m not trying to program an army of single and barren feminist’s LOL. We all enjoy the thought of being a wife and mother some day and we all have a right to hold onto the endless possibilities.
However, for a moment put aside what society says is acceptable of you as a woman and instead take on the thoughts of what you feel is your purpose as a human being. I just simply want to provoke your minds and create new sinews of thought.
Words by: Siane Mullings, Columnist.
